A relationship, from my interesting point of view, is the distance between two points. If you have a "bad" relationship, then the distance is large. If you have a "good" relationship, then the distance is small. People talk about being "close" or "distant" in relationship which are simply measures of how good their relationship is at that point in time.
So, when you think of your partner, or a previous partner, how far are you from him/her? Are you close or are you distant?
For me, when I think of my gorgeous lady, Eri, she's very close. Our relationship is moving away from "relationship" into communion. Now this is a much greater way of being with each other. With communion, you are simply "with" the person and have no judgment of each other or what we choose. Our vulnerability with each other is growing dynamically which is allowing both of us to generate a life with each that we'd truly like to have as individuals and together.
Regardless of where you are in relationship to this person, you can change it if you wish. Its not about making it better, or making it worse, its simply being willing to change it, without being vested in outcome. Changing it doesn't necessarily mean that it will end. Perhaps your way of interacting with one another ends and then moves into a greater way of being with each other. Perhaps it does end but in a much more amicable manner than could have been possible before. There's lots of ways it could change. It is up to you to be willing to change it.
When you have a upset with someone, how far are you from them? Close or distant? Obviously distant. What if you could change all of that so that whatever is going on simply melts away so that you both have choice as to what you'd like to do next. You can stay together. You can separate. Or you can do whatever else you like that works for both of you.
What would you choose?